First I need to tell you all that I love my husband! Chris and I needed to recharge and refuel our souls and love for one another and a chance came to Chris's attention when the base Chaplin Mark emailed everyone with a opportunity to go to Mo Ranch for a weekend free on the base. So Chris decided to surprise me with this weekend away. He came home showed me the email and I read it and I said " That would be great if we can find a sitter?" Then he say's to me " I did!" He had arranged for my mom to come and stay for the weekend with the kids so we could go. I was so surprised and we had the best time. The ranch is beatiuful. 500 arce's of land and it was just so pretty to look at. There were no phones, tv's, radio's in our room's so we spent time there reading our books doing our marriage homework and other things at night. During the day we went to class and began learning the "Five Love Languages" and the "Five Apology Languages". There couples there who were engaged, newly married, all the way up to married for 29 years. Chris and I will be married for 14 years in Nov. We have thou been together for that long of time and it still amazes me how much I am still in love with this man even in our hardest of times threw out the years. Pastor Mark and his wife Debroah practice this in thier own home with each other. They learned how to talk to their partner's using their language and not thier own. We have since put this into use here at home. We were all told to start out small because we were going to feel silly and wierd at first doing it. He was right. Chris and I would look at each other when something would come up and smile and say to each other " Hey, use your love language!" Just the other night a issue arouse and instead of yelling I talked very calmly and told Chris how I felt the situation should of been handled. Well Chris brought up the past and took in that context. I looked at him and said "Leave the past in the past" Well he couldn't. So he went to the livingroom and watched a movie. So this morning while we were watching our favorite show that was a marathon NCIS! a issue arouse that brought back up the subject. I was able to use his apology language and love language to gear him down and come to a understanding of my statement the night before. I thought to myself " well what do you know its working!" I am trying to do my best and so is he. We have also decided that in order to bring respect in our family and tone down the octive in our house that we need to be better examples as parents to our kids. I have a hot temper. I can cut with words very deep and I know it. Chris is laid back let things go type person. With the two of us we can meet in the middle and find the compermise and lift each other up with God's Glory as head of our house and we can show our kids what to look for in a spouse when they are older. We learned so much and I highly recommend these books. They are great for any stage in your marriage.
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