Restoring your Marriage/ Making your Marriage Work, and Fighting to Save Your Marriage!

Chris and I are part of Vista Community Church. Currently are sermons have been about "FireProofing Your Marriage". We went opening night of the "FireProof" with our church family. What a awesome movie. Thank goodness Nana was in town to watch the 4 kids at the time. Lately, thou there are a lot of good things out there to help couples with their marriages. Its a good reminder for me to walk away when I get angry. I have a tendency to do that. IRISH TEMPER and ALL!! Chris is more laid back compared to me. It really kind of evens us out when it comes to issues that arise and it can also cause conflict because of our difference. Chris and I are currently reading Love Dare. The Book based off of the "FireProof" Movie. Its slow going but with all the happenings the past 2 years in our lives we really needed this and we are finally feeling like we are getting back on track with our marriage and our family. So my Aunt Connie sends me these devotionals and when I like them I read them and when I really like them and they are rel event to me I post them. Enjoy!

These are pictures of the book Love Dare Chris and I are reading and FireProof Couples Set. Go See the Movie, its well worth the money!!

How to Resolve Conflict with Your Spouse (Part 2)
by Rick Warren
Live together in harmony, live together in love, as though you had only one mind and one spirit between you . in humility think more of each other than you do of yourselves. Philippians 2:3-4 (PH)
If you're going to pull together when you're pulled apart, you have to:
Convene a peace conference. Conflict does not resolve itself. It must be dealt with intentionally. Conflict gets worse when you leave it alone. Jesus says don't ignore it. Deal with the issue while you can. If you've got something wrong with somebody or they've got something wrong with you, God says you go to them.
When? At once. Postponed conflict only gets worse. Another verse in the Bible says, "Don't let the sun go down on your anger" (Ephesians 4:26 HCSB). I think that means 24 hours would be the maximum amount of time you should let something go unresolved. You need to settle it as soon as possible, before it festers and turns into bitterness.Consider my mate's perspective. I can't just look at my own viewpoint, my own situation; I have to look at your viewpoint too. This is very difficult because it's not natural. It requires an intentional shift where I have to change my focus from looking at my needs to looking at your needs. It takes God to do that. When you understand where people are coming from, it's so much easier. The better you understand your mate, the less conflict you're likely to have with him or her.How do you learn to understand your spouse? Listen. Listen more than you talk. This again is not easy for many of us. It's not easy for me. Some of us get so anxious to make our point, to tell our side, to defend ourselves that we don't even stop to listen to the other person's point of view or what they are saying.
You are most like Christ when you ask, "What are her/his needs and how can I meet them?" When you're angry, you're preoccupied with yourself. But when you're like Christ, you look to each other's interests and not merely your own. One of the most powerful peacemaking statements you can say to your husband/wife is, "I'm sorry. I was only thinking of myself."